A good friend today told me that I’ve changed, or am changing, something like that. At first, I was concerned, thinking that motherhood has done to me exactly what I didn’t want it to…but then I took a minute, and realized, how could it not? I said, pretty wholeheartedly before having Kinsey, that I didn’t want to lose myself. I had known people who had become mothers and it consumed them in a such a way that they became uninteresting. I did not want to lose everything that I am and be defined solely by my role as a mother…so, needless to say, I’ve been incredibly self conscious.

I catch myself talking about Kinsey, and feel like I have to hold back…

I tweet something about pumping or breast feeding and think “Good God Woman! Over-share!” and feel like I have to apologize…

I talk about missing my little girl, and again, I apologize, well…today, I kind of decided that I need to stop apologizing.

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