An old friend of mine (not really that old, but I’ve always wanted to say “she’s an old friend”) and I were facebook messaging eachother the other day when she asked that I talk about my marriage some more on my blog. So here is goes.
Has anyone noticed how completely ridiculous the movies are these days? Seriously? Has anyone really thought about this? I remember in middle school and high school always racing to the movie theaters to catch the latest Reese Witherspoon or Julia Roberts romantic comedy but since I’ve grown up (or maybe this really is just recently) I’ve wanted to vomit watching the previews. I understand that its not real, but really?!
Heres my list of 2008-2009 WOST romantic comedies:
1) the Ugly Truth
2) Confessions of a Shopaholic
3) Ghosts of Girlfriends Past
4) Definitely, Maybe.
Bored. Disgusted. Nausea. Bryant is happy that I’d rather not watch these movies, because I get to spare him the pain and agony of watching people run completely on emotion (and he doesn’t have to deal with me being all gooey and mushy).
I have a theory. Its not really my theory, but I’ll call it my theory for the sake of making this post personal. I believe that love is a choice. Not a feeling, not an emotion, its a choice. People can “feel” like they are in love, but that feeling isn’t constant. You can’t trust your feelings because they are always changing. I can trust commitment. I can trust choice. I can trust that when I say that I will choose to love someone everyday, I’m making a bigger vow then saying I’ll keep the feeling of love alive. C.S. Lewis talks about love as a choice, and because of your will you can endure good times and bad times, choosing to love eachother regardless.
I think that once we put ourselves aside and start to choose to love eachother unconditionally, that is where the romance comes in. How exciting is it to choose to love someone everyday for the rest of your life? Recently, I read the book “Redeeming Love” again by Francine Rivers. Its one of my favorites, and I wanted to read it now that I have my very own Michael Hosea. If you haven’t read this book, you should because what makes this book different is that its not really about love at all. Its about redemption, and choice. Michael Hosea chooses to love her regardless of how much she rejects him.
Why isn’t this book a movie? I think I need to start an online petition-who’s with me?